Children do things to either get something or avoid/delay something. It may not seem important at the moment, whether your child is doing their homework, chores, or anything else in order to get something or to avoid something. If the children are doing the things they need to do, then why worry about it? Well, the long term results of getting something vs. avoiding something are drastically different. Positive consequences really do work much better than negative consequences, and here are some of the reasons.
Positive vs. Negative Consequences
|1. Produce only enough behavior to avoid the consequence||1. Produce behavior to earn the consequence, plus extra discretionary effort to earn more positive consequences|
|2. Reduce child's ability and desire to behave||2. Increase child's ability and desire to behave|
|3. Reduce parent's positive influence||3. Increase parent's positive influence|
|4. The behavior takes on the feelings of the consequence||4. The behavior takes on the feelings of the consequence|
|5. Behavior will generalize to other behaviors. The child will become creative looking for good things to do, even in totally unrelated areas.|
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